It is comfortable to get along with each other, and it is warm without words.

It is comfortable to get along with each other, and it is warm without words.

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the poet Gu Cheng said:

the wind is knot its leaves,

grass is knot its seeds,

we stand silent,

is very beautiful.

when I get to a certain age, I find that I am not tired of getting along with each other and how rare it is to be around for a long time.

this poem shows the best between people: they are comfortable with each other and warm without words.

01

get along well with each other with the same frequency

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We will meet a lot of people in our life. at first, we talk to each other, but in the end, the relationship slowly fades away, and few of us can keep in touch with each other all the time.

the weakening of all relationships is ultimately due to different frequencies.

the Book of changes says: "one voice corresponds to each other, and we ask for it in the same phase."

means that the same sound can resonate and the same smell will blend with each other. The same kind of things feel each other, people with the same frequency will never get tired of it.

the so-called frequency is the same, but it is the understanding and understanding between friends; the appreciation and tolerance between husband and wife.

people with the same frequency know how to listen rather than argue.

people with the same frequency, understand your implication, understand your mountains and rivers, and respect you are different from mine.

being with such people is like drinking a good cup of tea. The more you get behind, the more you feel fragrant, physically and mentally. No matter how many years have passed, you will not get tired of each other, and you will still be very comfortable with each other.

Richard Yates' Eleven kinds of Solitude says:

"I think loneliness is the person you face, whose emotions are not at the same frequency as your own emotions."

getting along with two people is like two FM radios. If you can never tune that frequency, you will never hear my heart.

A true bosom friend has the same frequency, the same values, not too many words, not too much flattery, has its own leisurely sound, deep into each other's hearts.

only when we meet a person with whom our soul can resonate, our lives are finally no longer lonely.

Life is very expensive, please leave time to people who are comfortable with each other.

02

get along well with each other

many people have this experience:

the closer you have a relationship with someone, the more likely you are to have friction and contradiction with them. On the contrary, it is not as easy to communicate with someone you meet for the first time.

Family members and couples often complain about each other. Why?

this can actually be explained by the hedgehog rule in psychology (also known as psychological distance effect).

in the cold winter, the two hedgehogs have to rely on each other for warmth. At first, because the distance is too close, their spines make each other bloody.

later, they adjusted their posture and drew a proper distance from each other, which not only kept each other warm, but also protected each other well.

this is a very old story, the moral of which is to warn us:

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people are actually like hedgehogs that keep each other warm. Learn to keep a distance when you get along with each other. Only a proper distance can make people happy.

as the old saying goes, "distance produces beauty".

keep a sense of distance, setting physical or psychological distance, not emotional distance.

there is no scenery in familiar places.

between relatives, distance is respect;

between lovers, distance is beautiful;

between friends, distance is love;

between colleagues, distance is friendship;

between strangers, distance is politeness.

the highest state of communication:

close to each other, sparse and close; harmonious but different, beauty and beauty in common.

03

get along comfortably and feel warm without words

if you know each other, you have a tacit understanding without words.

the older you get, the more you feel that it is better to chat with people than to stay quietly with a bosom friend.

you have a tacit understanding that you know what each other is thinking with one look, and you don't have to rack your brains to find a topic and think about what to say to make the atmosphere less awkward.

A true friend doesn't belittle what you're proud of, don't stop what you really like, and don't attack what you were born with.

even the occasional silence is just right, you know what I want to say, I know what you mean.

get along with each other comfortably, but also warm without words.

after the difficult times, I realized that there are too many things in life that are difficult to be humane to the outside world.

understand the importance of listening more than expressing.

writer Su Qin once said:

"stay with whoever you are comfortable with, including friends, and stay away when you are tired."

those who can enter my heart will be treated as kings, and those who do not enter my heart will disdain to be perfunctory. "

what is comfort?

is the sympathy between Boya and his son's "high mountains and rivers meet bosom friends";

is the mutual trust between Guan Zhong and Bao Shuya, "those who gave birth to me, Bao Shuya also".


it is Guan Ning and Hua Xin's sharp knife of "birds of a feather flock together, people cut the mess with groups".

as the saying goes: those who know me say I am worried; those who do not know me say what I want.

it's beautiful to be with people who are comfortable with each other and stand silent.